1. Don’t assume. Just because you prefer a night of drunken debauchery doesn’t mean your soon-to-be ex-best-friend does. Get a general idea what the groom wants to do and, more importantly, find out exactly what the bride will and will not tolerate.
2. Find someone to drive. If the bachelor party involves alcohol, find a designated driver. You may want to consider renting a limousine for the evening, even if there’s no alcohol involved.
3. Don’t do it the night before. The experts at BachelorParty recommend you have the party no less than three days before the wedding. This allows ample time for recovery. Keep in mind that weddings are expensive and the bride expects her groom to be attentive and alert during the ceremony.
4. Divide the costs. The groom shouldn’t have to pay a cent. The costs should be divided evenly among party guests. If you’re arranging the party, make sure it’s affordable for those the groom definitely wants to be there, especially if a few more financially sound guests don’t mind chipping in extra.
5. Take quantity over quality. The groom chose quality over quantity when he decided to get married. On this night, give him quantity. That means tons of food, tons of beverages and tons of whatever “entertainment” party guests choose.
6. Reign in the groom. Bachelor parties, despite their reputation, should not be a free-for-all foray into lust, indulgence and other things the groom might regret (once the bride finds out). It is the responsibility of the guests to make sure the groom doesn’t cross the line. Remember, he’s getting married in a few days.
7. Choose the guests wisely. Sure, the bride’s father or brother are welcome at the bachelor party kick-off dinner, but reserve the night-on-the-town stuff for only the most trustworthy of friends.
8. Plan early. The bachelor party should be more than “hanging out” and “going with the flow.” Plan carefully. Ask the groom about the big things, but don’t bother him with the details. That’s your responsibility. You can even ask the bride for some input. You won’t actually consider it, but it’ll make her less likely to think ill of the proceedings. Start planning about a month in advance.
9. Avoid pictures. Designate a picture taker—the guest with the most common sense. Keep pictures to a minimum, preferably in the early stages of the gathering. The last thing you want is for pictures of the groom galloping through the halls in his underwear showing up on Facebook the day of the wedding.
10. Keep it simple. The groom just wants to have some fun with the guys one last time. That’s all.